The Danger Of Completely Demystifying Women

Reaching a beta’s un-fathomable level of understanding of how women actually are, counter to cultural or self-imposed ignorance, can be a double edged sword – learning the dating game, no more importantly, learning exactly how girls tick, how to game them, how to manage them, how to manage relationships effectively, how to control them in the easiest and best way possible to get what you want from them, can lead to a difficult situation where you may find yourself relating to a more omega man or a man who goes his own way mantra. You simply become unchallenged by it, and by default, uninterested in women. I find myself in this little brief excursion from my normal constant thought of women and sex, in fact just today I passed a plethora of cute and attractive girls, and I was reminded of a previous version of myself at just how happy being around cute girls, that them being around me made me happy, and yet there I was, looked them up and down, acknowledged that I’d be interested if I had the energy or motivation, but not one hook of a passing interest to engage even in the most casual of politeness. It was a bit of a stunner because it could almost be described as bitterness by someone who’s unfamiliar with who I am, but it was disturbingly just an uninterest, bordering on asexuality.

Fluctuating Desires and the Loss of Surprise

I’m a man that goes through many moods, I’m 90% interested most of the year, but mostly for new experiences, I’m 60% interested for what I currently have or can have, most of the year, and then there are times, in both those cases, that I just couldn’t care less. I still acknowledge an attractive individual, especially one wearing heels, but my energy sometimes just isn’t into it. Lately it’s been due to lack of time to follow through with anything, the lack of energy, or the lack of desire – but why? Understanding true desires helps explain it. It happens when I’ve lost all sense of surprise a woman can bring me in my life. For me, girls are two things for me, straight passionate nature, and a general sweet and fun personality, but knowing what women are like, being through it all the time, makes one a little weary at times, those times when you don’t absolutely need your emotional connection, those times when you’ve got other things on your mind than spending the time to connect with a new attractive woman – it’s these times, when a perfectly attractive woman walks by and tingles nothing, nowhere in my body or mind – well nothing more than an semi interesting painting might hold my appreciation for a few minutes. It’s these times, that I actually valued the times when single women were a bit more of a mystery to me, that perhaps I didn’t completely understand them, that upon seeing them I didn’t know exactly how to engage them, that I would get a pleasant surprise rather than the odd unpleasant surprise.

Power, Boredom, and the Human Psyche

This is also true because of being actually satisfied by one or more women, that I have already been satisfied by, however even in a good relationship, I’m often more interested in other women, for a different experience. However, in knowledge comes power, and in power becomes boredom, the only thing you can do when you become powerful, is become more powerful or be obsessed with keeping your power, otherwise you quickly realize it doesn’t mean anything really, other than a passing stage of your life.

There is a little truth in the human psyche that needs that element of surprise, take that away and we’re left with just a lack of desire to attain or conquer something, we are left at only looking upon a woman with a slight appreciation of her beauty, and moving on to go tackle all the stuff you need to get on with your life. It’s these times that you need to remind yourself, that no matter who you are, you still don’t know everything about all women, it’s these times you are in desperate need to be reminded what it was that made you a bit mystified and what you find appealing in women, more than just a quick encounter, because as time goes on, and the notches rack up, at some point you will find yourself choosing something less glamorous than just casual encounters that will do nothing but bore you until your interest fades. For guidance on maintaining balance, see healthy relationship guidance.

So was the simple life taken from us? Or did we throw it away for being too boring? I think both might be correct. As for me, no amount of wild partying and escapades can replace sharing a few beers with friends on a patio in the afternoon, sitting in the sun – it cannot replace sipping a scotch from a balcony, in the calm night air – it cannot replace the tender resting beside a beautiful partner, content and close by. I always strive for the simple; you would think it would be easy, but keeping things simple seems to be the hardest thing to do these days.